Everybody has their struggles. It’s a natural part of life, we can’t be expected to be totally fine all the time. Being care experienced may mean that you have had to go through some extra struggles, that maybe your peers haven’t. It isn’t always easy to deal with. So, what do you do when you’re struggling? What is your go to to help you cope?
I use a number of different coping mechanisms, and I’ve tried a whole load more. Some work, some don’t, and everyone uses different coping mechanisms.
Today, I thought it may be useful to share with you some of my coping mechanisms.
Meditation
When I was younger, meditation and mindfulness never helped me. I couldn’t sit still for long enough to feel the benefits, as I got older I realised that just because you are meditating doesn’t mean you have to do it completely still. The way I meditate is… slightly strange to say the least. I call it the butterfly. I link my hands (like a butterfly) and place my linked thumbs in the centre of my chest. I then tap my hands on my chest alternating each hand, while closing my eyes. I find this method to meditate allows me to relax my mind and my body but without having to sit completely still.
Art
The arts have always played a massive part in my life. I have always had a major love for music and art. When I begin to feel full of negative energy and emotions I try to channel that through my art and music.
You don’t have to be good at either to use it to help you. Next time you feel overwhelmed, try to grab a piece of paper and any pen and just scribble all over that piece of paper. When you’ve filled the paper, get some coloured pens or pencils and colour in the gaps in between the lines.
This exercise allows me to get out all kinds of negative emotions.
Music
Music is such a good way to release energy and emotions. There’s music for literally every emotion and feeling possible. So stick your headphones on find a song that fits what you’re going through and scream it at the top of your lungs.
Just remember though, positive music encourages positive energy. So if you’re really down and struggling, try and put a motivational song on.
Friends
It goes without saying that friends are always there for you. COVID-19 has made things extremely difficult for meeting friends, and generally engaging in social activity. However, in terms of a coping mechanism, or a way to help you. Give them a call, schedule in a coffee or drop them a text. Chances are they will be there to lend a listening ear and a helping hand.
Things can be tough, but you are never alone. If you’re struggling reach out to a trusted adult, that could be your teacher, foster Carer, leaving care worker etc.
Alternatively you can call:
Samaritans 116 123
Childline 0800 1111
or Text
Shout to 85258
Take care and thank you for reading,
Emily x
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